Recently, I stumbled across a blog that stated the following:
“As you all know, I am pro-choice. I don’t believe in parental notification laws. I believe you can have an abortion for whatever reason you want. And yes I am a mother. And yes I was upset when I miscarried cuz that was a baby to me. However, IT IS MY CHOICE!!! And that’s what the abortion debate is about. […] Fine, if you are prolife. I don’t push my opinions on you and I expect you to do the same.”
A few things struck me here:
- This person is a mother and still believes—even after having gone through the whole pregnancy and childbirth experience—that abortion (the right to kill her baby in utero) is still something she thinks she wants to defend.
- She admits she is aware there is a baby within. (Pro-abortionists usually favor referring to an unborn baby as a zygote or fetus—anything to avoid calling it a baby, because really—who wants to kill an innocent, defenseless baby? Killing babies is just bad mojo.)
- She illustrates defensiveness over anyone telling her what she can and cannot do with her body. This appears to be the main foundation upon which she rests her entire pro-choice position. One can only wonder if she takes other physical mandates as personally. After all, it’s against the law to physically assault others with your body. It’s against the law to neglect buckling your body into your car. It’s against the law to walk in public while nude. We have all these laws that tell us what we can and cannot do, where we can and cannot go and even what we can and cannot say.
- She says it’s not her place to tell others what to do. Isn’t this what laws are? Rules, created by people, set to define appropriate behavior? We live in a world of laws; otherwise we live in a world of chaos. Daily, we choose to either work within those laws (citizen), without those laws (criminal), or on the laws (lawmaker.) Throughout our lives, most of us have donned two or three of these roles at one time or another, to varying degrees.
I think the most troubling idea here is the notion this mother knows there is a baby in the womb but thinks her “right” is more important than her baby’s life. Some questions I’m struggling with:
- Does this rigidity offer her a much needed sense of control or certainty in her life?
- Does she feel her life is so restricted by laws that tell her what she can and cannot do with her body that she simply cannot bear one more law?
- Is it that she was influenced by someone close to her in her past and now subconsciously clings to the pro-abortion paradigm that was originally given to her?
And the biggest question of all:
- What pushes this young mother to defend this pro-abortion mindset even after seeing her baby for the first time? Can a new mother truly look at her newborn baby after enduring 10 months of pregnancy’s highs and lows and think, “Yes, I should definitely have had the right to kill this child while she was inside my body?”
(Originally posted at prosanctityoflife.com on October 23, 2011.)
I believe that both you and the mother are correct as you are both entitled to your own opinion WITHOUT PROSECUTION (See ‘The Declaration of Human Rights’). To openly shun another’s opinion is downright disrespectful, even if you disagree with her opinion (which is evident throughout your piece) the Bible teaches us to ‘love thy neighbour as thyself’ meaning that we should openly embrace our differences. If we all had the same views on everything, I believe that life would no longer be sacred and there would be no point in pro life or pro choice; we would simply be one or the other.
Abortion is murder, I admit that, however it is justified in some cases.
War has killed (and still is killing) millions of people. Any soldier would agree that in a war you kill in cold blood whether it is for your country, your people or your family. Abortion is just the same and if war can be justified then so can abortion.
Nonetheless, I do not believe that abortion should be used in the same way that contraception is and should only be resorted to after extreme consideration and in extreme situations.
I also do not believe in forcing my own opinion upon others of different opinions as I believe that as long as they can justify their reasoning, their opinion is legitimate.
As a teenager, it is easy to spot the mistakes of the older generation and point these out. However it is not so easy to be faced with the same decision and make the correct one.
If your child was raped and became pregnant due to this would you force her to go through with the pregnancy regardless of the mental, physical and emotional side effects that she would face? Would you force her to give birth to a child born of violence if she did not want to?
“If a man does not get his share of happiness… then I say a baby born dead is better off. It does that baby no good to be born… It never sees the light of day or knows what life is like, but at least it has found rest.”
This shows that abortion may be the more compassionate choice (Christians are always taught to be compassionate) than the child being born to a broken mother.
A final point is that “Abortion… may be the lesser of two evils. Some embryos are grievously handicapped. If born alive, their only prospect is of immense suffering and usually early death. Where the pregnancy is the result of rape, the abortion may be necessary for the recovery of the victim… Termination of pregnancy may be the right course because of the social circumstances of the existing family, or the mental or physical health of the mother.”
I believe in both pro life and pro choice as both can be right under different circumstances and people should not be shunned or put down for what they believe in. We are humans, not animals. The difference is that humans have compassion and the ability to love: use the gifts God has given you and live life in the way YOU believe is right, not what the crowd believes.
Thank you for taking the time to register my opinion (it is only an opinion)
Year Nine, Trent College